It was September 30, 2008 when the doctor came in and he just said that my father had a cardiac arrest. They told me that I had to make a decision. They said we could do (a) we could try to revive him, but we’ll probably break every bone in his body and he will feel all the pain or, (b) we’ll just let life take its course, and we’ll let him pass in peace. So frantically I had a minute to decide what I had to decide, either life or this. I was told not to let the decision that was going to make at that moment haunt me for the rest of my life. So I made a decision to let him go.
I remember I just laid out his side and I was just weeping like crazy. I told him everything I was grateful for, I told him thank you so much for how you raised me and the sad thing about it is that it was the only time I did it. I never did it before, I never told my father how much I loved him. I never told him anything until that moment. After that I remember I kissed him and said goodbye. I went inside the waiting room. I heard all these noises again, but no pitter-patter of the feet, no nothing. And I remember I looked it up like, “Is it over?”, and he said, “Yeah, it’s over”. To this day he’s always in the back of my mind every time I do my work, everything I do, because he taught me how to love, how to be kind, how to be real, how to be genuine towards people. He told me to live every second as it is my last and always help the poor, and to live simply so other people can simply live.
In this way, Rafin opened up and shared his story of the day he made the ultimate decision for his father. He had just one more minute to spend with his father.
I lost my father December 29th 2013 in the late morning. My father raised myself and my sister on his own. I am so grateful for everything he has done for me and for all the love he has given me. He was very kind towards others. Asked why he showed kindness to everyone around him, my father would say: “Even a lion shows kindness to its kind”. I wish I told him how grateful I am but it wasn’t until the day we decided to take him off life support that I told him all that. I pray that he heard me. My father was a huge influence in my life. I love and miss him so much. I still cry when I think about him. In this precious day I would like to look at the brightest star of the sky and want to say, “Happy Father’s Day, Abbu”.